Updates from Frederick Smith, former Detroiter living in Los Angeles, and author of Play It Forward (January 2015), Right Side of the Wrong Bed (December 2007), and Down For Whatever (July 2005).
Monday, September 26, 2005
Golden Rule... Re-done
A student brought me something cool he learned/got in class today. He wanted to talk about a new way of looking at the whole Golden Rule thing we all grew up with. Good discussion.
I'd heard these a long time ago while in college, and it challenged me to look at the assumptions I make about how others (and I) would want to be treated.
Golden Rule: You treat others as you would like to be treated. (a self-centered point of view, only takes into account your perspective and view, and assumes others want to be treated as you; or that everyone wants to be treated the same)
Lead Rule: You treat others as you think they should be treated. (another self-centered point of view, only takes into account your perspective and view, and again assumes others have no preference in how they want to be treated)
Platinum Rule: You treat others as they would like to be treated. (a view that takes into account how the other person wants to be treated, regardless of your own self view; takes a little more work to find out how the other person would want to be treated, responded to, etc... This is where we should be aiming to be in our lives)
A little reflection, and it helped the student see and un-learn something he's grown up with all his life. Cool what going to class, and having a progressive professor, can do. fs
Author of 3 QPOC/LGBT novels: Down For Whatever (05); Right Side of the Wrong Bed (08); Play It Forward (January 2015). www.FrederickLSmith.com @fsmith827
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