Friday, June 15, 2007

Always In Love

I've got one, well several, in my circle who just gotta have a man. I'm sure you do too.

And this weekend, I'm sure you will hear them out, or watch them in process, as they do what they do best.

You know what I'm talking about?

The one who's always in pursuit/hunt of a man/"relationship".

Endless cycle: pursue/hunt/meet someone new; have the lovely honeymoon phase; in a "relationship" in 6 days; "relationship" conflicts; temporary break up; get back together; break up; new pursuit/hunt of a man/"relationship" begins the hour after the break up.

OK, maybe a day.

But even while in the "relationship", just never happy and looking for the next best thing to come along.

Basically, they're always in love... or pursuing love... and never single.

Now, I'm all for loving relationships and dating. I know one of our strong desires as humans is to love and be loved by someone other than ourselves. Not a problem.

But I wonder about what's going on in the head of those in our circles, when they're already pursuing options of available men... and the ink hasn't even dried on their current breakup. Or, the one in our circles who is NEVER single. Or, the one in our circle who feels like s/he's nothing without a man, and is on the hunt. Always.

It's like it's a personal mission... I just gotta have a man. Or you can call it Brooke Logan Forrester Forrester Forrester Forrester Forrester syndrome. A character from Bold and The Beautiful, nothing else happens in Brooke's life unless it involves a man.

One in your circle who's always in love? Or always in pursuit of a man?

But bigger than that, how do we help our friends (or nephews and nieces) that there's many important things that make them special other than a new wo/man in their life?

CD image: This Girl's In Love With You by Aretha Franklin.

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