Single. Professional. Good looking. What gives?

So I have a lot of friends who are college graduates, professionals working in their chosen fields, some own homes, all have their own cars, and I think all are pretty cool, fun, and take care of themselves physically and mentally.

The one thing they all have in common is they're all single. The other thing they all have in common is when they're not single, they tend to date people who are, uh, how shall I put this? Let's say they're not equally-paired relationships.

Nice people want mean people. Loud people seek quiet people. People without issues end up with people who have major ones. Those over 30 want someone closer to 20. Everyone's looking over their shoulder for the Becky's and Bryce's of the world who seem to weasel their way into the lives of the Shaquan's and Sherece's of the world... or the other way around. And let's not go there with the skin color and tone thing. A couple of my friends in NYC still adhere to a Y2K version of the paper bag test when it comes to dating. Bless their hearts, but I thought that all ended with the 1950s era... or with the 50 Cent era of loving things dark.

So why is it that all the seemingly good people are perpetually single? Or can never find someone they consider their equal? Is there a such thing as an equal? Or are we all just searching for ideals and fantasies that occur only in the movies?
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